(I feel like your birthday should hold all of your favorite things, and this is mine: sunrise on a rooftop in Rome. That’s the Vatican in the distance.) I wrote a whole other post for this day, but upon re-reading it, it just didn’t fit. #Typical.
This is a really long list because I’m avoiding a take-home test! (#shameless)
(Also: this campus in the spring? Gorgeous.)
Do you listen to Rodriguez? “I Wonder,” “Sugar Man,” and “This Is Not A Song, It’s an Outburst, or: The Establishment Blues,” are my favorites. (Below is the “Searching for Sugar Man,” trailer if you don’t know who Rodriguez is.)
As someone who isn’t looking for anything remotely committed any time soon, this article about “monogamy” being “monogam-ish” is riveting.
This piece about personal branding–and how it began during the Victorian era was an unexpectedly interesting read.
I loathe the idea of “chill” and this article will tell you why. It’s so well written too; it begins: “The Great Chill Massacre of 2014 was not premeditated.” It gets better from there.
I love this article from Everyday Feminism about practicing yoga without appropriating it.
This NYT article about slut-shaming, Monica Lewinsky’s return to public life, and the invasive tabloid/Internet culture we now live in has been sitting in my Bookmarks tab for a long time…but I’m so glad I finally sat down to read it. Absolutely phenomenal writing about slut-shaming.
Have a great weekend!
Jet lag has successfully knocked me off my feet (so I’ve been waking up at 8:00AM like clockwork and falling asleep with the lights on at 11PM) so I thought I’d bring this fun roundup back!
Missing Parisian mornings like the one above!
One of my friends is considering traveling alone, and this article had great tips about it. I have to say, while I’m still a rookie traveler, it does feel more accessible now that I’ve actually done it.
My favorite blogger talked about her favorite tea, and she’s British, so it must be good!
You can’t see anything through the rear of these yoga pants, so says Refinery 29, and that’s a beautiful thing, don’t you think?
5 yoga mistakes to avoid this year!
I really love Everygirl’s breakups article for the new year. (It’s not what you think!)
I hope you have a wonderful Sunday!
This Fall Flow video is my everything right now:
Alexander Wang’s collection for H&M is all of my monochromatic sporty dreams in one line.
A documentary about real-life Quidditch that also inspires people to embrace their inner weird? I’m all in, guys.
Don’t love the title, but this post about galpal love makes me all warm and fuzzy inside. Support your lady friends!
BRB baking this insanely awesome casserole. I’m a huge casserole person. You mean I can mix ingredients into a giant dish and leave it in the oven and it will still turn out awesome? Sold.
I hope your week was good and HAPPY 103RD HOMECOMING MIZZOU TIGERS! Mizzou-rah!
I have a very long temper, but when I reach the end of my fuse, it ain’t pretty. One of the best benefits from yoga and meditation for me is the ability to control more of my emotions. Granted, I’m not the best at it, and I also don’t believe in repressing what I’m feeling; often, however, anger isn’t exactly appropriate, especially in public (I like to be private about my arguments, thank you very much).
Here are a few of my tips to managing your temper just as it’s about to explode:
- Take deep breaths. Yeah, you’ll look a little weird if you just stop the argument and conversation and just breathe, but it’ll help. Focus on the sensation of the breath moving in and out of your nose, and if you need something even more attention demanding, try in-through-your-nose, out-through-your-mouth. Do this ten times, and if you don’t feel a bit calmer, do it ten more. Repeat until you feel coherent again!
- Distance yourself from the conflict. I’m a confrontational, stubborn person, so when I get into an argument, I’ll really go for it. Often I have to remind myself to step back and say, “What are we really fighting about?”
- In the same vein as #2, look at the conflict from the other person’s point of view. Points that will make sense to you may not make sense to another person. If you can understand where they’re coming from instead of assuming they’re wrong, you can help spearhead a solution before the argument gets out of control.
- Let them have their accident somewhere else. I read this in a self-help book I got for 8th grade graduation (yes) and it really stuck with me. Originally the author was talking about a driver with road rage endangering other drivers on the highway. Instead of getting angry and retaliating, the author just dealt with the dangerous driver and let him on his way–and sometimes you have to do that with arguments. Some people will have bad days, vomit their negative emotions on your, or provoke conflict for the sake of conflict. Learn to recognize these situations. It can be hard, especially if you’re tired or stressed, to let little jabs go, but just let them have their accident somewhere else. If you don’t give in to the fight, they can’t start one.
- Likewise, if you’re jonesing for an argument, stop yourself as best you can! Picking a fight won’t make you feel better, and it’ll damage the relationships you hold dear when you’re not upset.
- Channel your energy. If you’re angry, put it into something. For me the most accessible resource is #1, or meditative breathing. I also like to breathe into my manipura chakra (solar plexus). The Solar Plexus is the center of energy in the body that deals with control, confidence, energy, and attitude. It can also deal with all of the raw emotions, and is located behind the navel. If this sounds a little new agey, just stay with me: Close your eyes. Picture a yellow little circle of light centered around your navel. Now, when you breathe, imagine your breath traveling to that spot on the inhale, and moving through it on the exhale, emerging cleaner and less volatile than before. It’s like an air filter, but for your energy! Breathe into that spot deeply and keep doing it until you feel more balanced. (Disclaimer: I’m not a chakra expert, but this is what makes me feel better).
- If breathing isn’t going to help you, and you’re that worked up, get active. Do some real yoga or asanas to help channel that energy. Go on a run. Do some pushups. Anything that gets your body moving to burn off the negative energy is a good thing; just don’t push yourself too hard!
- If you need to, leave the situation. This is a trick I learned in ResLife as an RA; sometimes, the best way to resolve an argument is to just politely excuse yourself and take some time away from the situation. Just say, “I’m sorry, I need to take a few minutes to gather my thoughts and look over my emotions before I can respond to anything.” Taking a simple time out can help immensely decrease the angry, tense energy of two people or of a room.
I hope these helped! Leave some calming tips in the comments if you have any!